The best of women

A Bedouin was asked about women, and being a man who was experienced with them, he said: ‘The best woman is the tallest when she stands, the most prominent when she sits, and the most truthful when she speaks. She is the one whose anger subsides quickly, and whose laugh is a beautiful smile. When she does something, she does it well. She obeys her husband and adheres to her home. She is honored among her people, yet insignificant in her own mind – affectionate and fertile, and everything about her is good.’

Source: Gems & Jewels (pg 174). Published by Darrusalam

The black art of backbiting

Shaikhul-Islam, Ibn Taimiyyah (may Allah have mercy on him) mentions some of the ways through which people back bite. In all reality, these tactics are designed to deceive Allah (the Exalted) and please His creation. However, the many that follow these methods are only deceiving their own selves.

  1. Under the pretense of being informative.
  2. By saying that, so and so is to be pitied, thereby showing superiority over one who is to be rejected.
  3. By mentioning the good quality of a person but tainting it by mentioning his evil qualities.
  4.  By saying that we should forget so and so and that we should pray for his forgiveness as well as ours, intending only to belittle the one that was mentioned.
  5. Upon hearing someone’s error, they (back biter) employ words like ‘had I prayed for so and so last night in my prayer, the news of their sin would not have reached my ears’, In order to superiority to the person.
  6. By belittling or being critical to the one who is praised in the company of others.
  7. Through humor, playfulness, and lightheartedness.
  8. In a manner of story, so that his story telling abilities might be appreciated.
  9. By showing amazement or surprise at other’s actions.
  10. With the pretense of sympathy for their actions and misfortunes.

 

Smaller signs of the day of judgement (part 1 of 3)

Signs that have already come to pass

  1. The coming of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Sahl bin sa’d (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he witnessed the messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) point to his index and middle finger and say: ‘I and the hour have been been sent like this” (i-e, just as index and middle fingers are right next to each other so is the coming of the prophet and the last day) (Sahih Muslim 726)
  2. The splitting of the moon. “The hour has drawn near, and the moon has been cleft asunder.” (Quran 54:1)
  3. The death of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Auf reported that the Prophet (PBUH) said “Enumerate six (occurrences) that will occur just before the hour: 1) my death, 2) the conquering of Jerusalem, 3) Death that spreads among you like Qu’as al-ghanam (a disease that afflicts beasts), 4) the flowing of wealth to the degree that a man will be given 100 dinars (in charity) yet he will remain dissatisfied, 5) a fitnah that will enter into every single arab home, and 6) a true that will be put into effect between you and the banu al-asfar (descendants of the Romans), who will then act treacherously and come to you under 80 banners and under each banner there will be 12,000 soldiers.” (Bukhari 6/277)
  4. The emerging of a fire from the land of Hijaz. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “The hour will not be established until a fire comes out in the land of Al-Hijaz, a fire that will illuminate the necks of camels in Basrah.” (Bukhari 13/78)
  5. Embargoes against Iraq, Ash-Sham & Egypt. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “Iraq will be denied its dirham and Qafiz. Ash-Sham (Syria and surrounding regions) will be denied its Mudd and Dinar. And Egypt will be denied its Irdab and Dinar. You will return to where you began. You will return to where you began.” (Muslim 7137) (Only the first part of this sign has occurred until now)

A Profound Saying of Ibn Qayyim

Ibn Qayyim said: ‘When the slave wakes up as the night encloses him and his only concern is Allah and how to please and obey Him, then Allah takes upon Him to fulfill all of his needs and remove from him all that causes him anxiety. Allah also makes his heart free to love Him only, his tongue free to remember Him only, and his body free to serve Him only.

However, when a salve of Allah wakes up when the night encloses him and his main concern is the world, Allah will make him bear the burdens of anxiety, grief, and hardship. Allah will entrust him to his own self and He will make his heart busy, sealing it from His love since it will be preoccupied with love for creation. Allah will keep his tongue from remembrance because it will be engaged with His creation; his body will be kept from obedience since it will be enslaved by its desires and services. And he will toil like a beast of burden toils in the service of another. And all who turn away from the worship, obedience and love of Allah, will be put into trial with the worship, service, and love for creation.’

Allah (the exalted) says:

“And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Gracious (Allah) we appoint for him Shaitan (Devil) to be a Qarin (an intimate companion) to him.” (Quran 43:36)

Ibn Qayyim continues to say:

‘Seek out your heart in three situations; First, when you are listening to the Quran. Second, when you are part of a gathering of remembrance. Third, when you are alone and away from the world and its distractions. If you cannot find your heart in these three situations, then ask Allah to bestow upon you a heart, for indeed you are bereft of one.”

Source: Gems & Jewels. Published by Darrussalam.

The Grand List of Common Bidahs


  1. Saying Iqamah in the left ear of a new born. (The sunnah is to say the azaan in the right ear alone)
  2. Celebrating Shabe-ba’rat (15th of shaban)
  3. Celebrating the night of ascension (mi’raj) (27th of Rajab)
  4. Celebrating Mawlid (Birthday of the Prophet)
  5. Mourning on the 3rd, 10th, 40th and on the yearly death anniversary of the deceased
  6. Doing tasbeeh (Subhan Allah), tahleel (la ilaha ill lal la) and tamheed (Alhamduliah) on stone, pebbles or the likes and doing so in a group.
  7. Reciting quran for the sake of benefiting the deceased with the reward of what is recited. This includes reciting quran as group by hiring people or inviting relatives, blowing over the food after recitation, and sharing that food with people on the death anniversary of a person.
  8. Making group dua right after the funeral prayer.
  9. Praying four rakat before the fard of jummah prayers.
  10. Making group dua at the end of each salah. (We cannot find any reference where after each salah the Prophet would make a dua and the sahaba will repeat ameen after him. Post salah zikr and Individual duas are found in the authentic narrations)
  11. Making group chanting of kalmiatu ikhlas at the end of each salah. (sunnah is to say Allahu Akbar, Astagfurllah x 3, and other masnoon duas, including kalima on personal basis)
  12. Doing a total of three khutbahs for Jumma. One in urdu and two in Arabic.
  13. Celebrating Urs (yearly festival) of saints.
  14. Sacrificing animals in the name of saints.
  15. Praying or supplicating to the dead, the saints, or anyone else besides Allah. (This includes slogans like Ya Ali, Ya Hussain and the likes)
  16. Making up for missed salahs that were missed during the state of being a child or a non-muslim.
  17. Believing in or using lucky charms, amulets, and soothsayers (najomis).
  18. Saying out loud the intention for prayer.
  19. Making monuments on graves. Making solid graves (through brick and stones)
  20. Mourning the first ten days of Muharam by not having marriage ceremonies or by mourning the martyrs of Karbala.
  21. Doing a khutbah before eid prayers.
  22. Praying eid prayers in a manner not found in the ahadith.
  23. Believing that Allah is everywhere. (Numerous verses from the Quran and narrations from hadith clearly mention that Allah is above His throne. e-g, Surah Taha, Verse 5)
  24. Believing that Allah is without image and is formless and/or disbelieving in His attributes. (We find certain physical attributes of Allah in Quran and Sunnah. Those physical attributes are not like anything we can compare to and are such that they suite Him accordingly. For example, we know from Quran & Sunnah that Allah has  hands, eyes, shin but all of these cannot be compared to anything else that has been created.)
  25. Believing in the sufi methodology of tarikat, abdaals, and such. (These believes have no basis in sharia. search for ‘abdal’ on wikipedia for a general understanding of this concept)
  26. Shaking hands with the one on the left and right after finishing every salah.
  27. Kissing thumbs upon hearing the name of the Prophet (PBUH).
  28. Visiting shrines of the saints.
  29. Sending salam on the Prophet (PBUH) out loud and as a group after every salah, especially after salatul jummah like done by the Barelvi community.
  30. Wiping the hands on the back of the neck while doing ablution (wudu). (This practice cannot be found in the authentic ahadith)
  31. Looking up and pointing towards the sky while reciting the shahada (testimony of faith) after. completion of wudu. (only reciting the shahada is from the sunnah).
  32. praying salatul tasbeeh. (no authentic hadith talks about this kind of prayer)
  33. praying nawafil on eid day before eid prayers.
  34. Believing that there are Prophets or messengers after Muhammad (PBUH).
  35. Believing that saints, prophets, or other people share characteristics of Allah or have special independent powers from Allah. Such as believing that saints can give life, or that they hold keys to the material treasures of heaven and earth. This includes believing that the Prophet (PBUH) had complete and absolute Knowledge of the unseen.
  36. Belief that the Prophet was created from the Noor (light) of Allah.
  37. Believing that the whole world and everything in it was created for Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). (Refer to Quran 51:56♦)
  38. Believing that those who achieve the high level of righteousness through piety (like saints) no longer need to follow the guidelines of the sharia.
  39. Exaggeration in praising of the good people.
  40. Reciting Naats (Nasheeds/Priases) of the Prophet (PBUH) by using musical instruments or techniques which resemble songs and music. This includes the field of Qawali as found abundantly in Indo-Pakistan region.
  41. Learning religion for the sole purpose of earning this world.
  42. The concept of taqleed. (choosing an imam and sticking with his rulings alone in all the matters of the deen)
  43. Separating religious matters from worldly matters like the Christian did with segregation of state and church.
  44. Indulging in magic, soothsayers, palmists, astrologists and numerologists, whether you believe them or not.
  45. Sending blessings on the Prophet (PBUH) out loud before making each azan.
  46. Asking some one else to do istikahra for oneself. Paying some one to do Istikhara.
  47. Washing the limbs more than three times during wudu (ablution).
  48. Believing that only a black sheep can be given as sadaqa (charity).
  49. Believing that black color is associated with mourning, bad news, and sadness.
  50. Believing that the Prophet (PBUH) is everywhere and/or that he attends certain gatherings of ‘remembrance’.
  51. Believing that talking during making wudu (ablution) or smiling/laughing while with wudu invalidates the ablution.
  52. Believing in the altered concept of tawassul. For example, making dua to Allah that he grants you something by the name of His Prophet (PBUH).

Note: When it comes to Bidah it is the ones who are involved in it that have to prove its authenticity from Quran or Sunnah, not the other way around. But if some persists, then my proof for classifying all the above as bidah is that we do not find any reference to these actions in the Quran or authentic sunnah.

If there is any error in the above list, then it is from me and the shaytaan. Please point out any errors and i will fix them inshalah. If i have left something out, please inform me so i may include it in the list. I ask Allah for forgiveness for the mistakes and sins that i know and for those that i do not know. And i ask Allah for guidance, mercy, faith, and compassion for myself and for the ummah of Muhammad (peace be upon him)

[51:56] I did not create the jinns and the humans except to worship Me alone.